Transformational Counseling

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Counseling that Heals and Creates Immediate, Deep, Lasting Change

Personal and Relationship

• Inner Child Healing, Shadow Transformation, and Sub Selves Transmutation
• Foundational Human Design Anaylsis, Self Empowerment and Creative Alive Self Expression

A Synopsis of the Three Components Needed for

Healing and Transformation

True Transformational Work can only be productively entered into when three key elements are in place -- Safety, Permission, and Invitation.

In addition, a very real sufficiency of Center, Presence, Compassion, Wisdom, and Awareness are fundamentally required to create these elements at depth.

The Safety to feel and know your deep Truth is first, as it is most fundamental... nothing can proceed without it. It must be safe to feel truth. Beverly's heart and deep aware presence have been said to be the most unique and powerful gifts that she offers.

Beverly believes that Safety is created and best expressed by these words... "No Harm, No Shame, No Guilt, No Blame". We do not need to harm, shame, guilt, or blame any part of us (or anyone else for that matter.) What we do need is to be compassionately self responsible and self loving to our pained parts, our shadow.

Shadow can be best understood as the parts of us that act out in our life in less than admirable ways... they are the hidden elements of our psyche that carry great amounts of pain and act out beneath our level of consciousness. We commonly find that when its pain (fear/anger/sadness) is acting out in the world, that it is attacked, shamed, guilt tripped, or blamed. Anything is done to shut it up, or control/repress its behavior - and any uncomfortable truth that the behavior points to. Any of these events individually repeated (though usually in combination) actually become the oppressing catalyst that drives these parts of us underground... into the shadows. We can not heal our pain until we can understand why it hurts ans acts out. To do this, the healing arena must be safe.


Permission is also critical, and in Beverly's view is simply this -- permission to be (for the first time in forever) an honest, open, very real, uncensored expression of truth... whether that truth is pain, sadness, fear, anger, etc. For this reason, Permission is utterly intertwined with Safety, and at its facilitated best, the honest open expression of true feelings (even those based in ideas, misunderstandings, etc) are not only allowed, but welcomed. We WANT to hear their pain and are strong enough in our love to hold the field for their healing.

Invitation comes last because Safety and Permission must be established first. Safety and Permission open the way, gain their (inner shadow, inner child, or sub self parts) attention, and build hope and trust -- and then the Invitation comes, calling their attention to what is most true Now. Calling them forward to this moment... out of their armoured ideas, positions, and agendas... out of their pain/rage/terror/grief and into the wholeness of what they have not known in forever... Love, Freedom,Relief. They are invited to come home... home to the truth of their Being... home to Love.

An Article by Beverly Bright...

Where does Suffering come from and what do we do with it?

It is Beverly's belief that most of our current life suffering has its roots in past life issues. And although she does work with past lives directly (as well as shadow and entity intrusion which she talks about in other writings), our current life issues seem to be a perfect holograph of all our past lives issues put together. She believes that we can trace our deep past life issues directly though the path of our present moment suffering back to our childhood experiences of trauma.

As a young child we have a limited capacity to see life events clearly due to our lack of life experience and our need for love from our parents. To help buffer us against the experiences of pain, sadness, frustration, judgment, fear, loneliness, etc. we are yet not able to understand or integrate, we create certain “trances” to help us deal with this chaos. We create beliefs about life, god, love, and people and subsequent to that strategies designed to keep us safe from the pain.

These strategies always start as a necessary means for survival. Often times the child simply cannot explain to itself what is happening... a life event that makes no sense to it’s young mind so in an attempt to stay sane, it either resists the experience, rejects the experience, or it adapts to it.

Yet what was a survival strategy for an overwhelmed and under skilled child attempting to understand and cope with its pain, often becomes the core symptom structure for the coping adult.

This wounded inner child, this part of our soul, becomes stuck or frozen in a “hell point” where it decides what reality is, how it works, and what it must do to survive. From this point on in its life, whenever any event that remotely looks like or feels like any part of the “original triggering “event has occurred, the strategy that was originally created to survive, unbeknownst to the adult, goes into action.

The adult is hypnotized by the wounded child’s “trance” and reacts automatically so that life is not experienced as it is, but rather as it was in the past. These reactions are somewhat like watching the same old movie playing over and over again when in reality it is not the same old movie. It is a completely new event that is reminding us of the old movie. What goes on inside of us is that the inner child tells itself that “this bad event (the old movie) must not occur again” which results in the activation of the old strategy (withdrawal, anger, depression, etc) and the person living in a self inflicted, disconnected from reality, traumatized state.

Contrary to popular belief, we do not have only “one inner child”... we have “many inner children” ... some do carry the more innocent, sweet childlike qualities that have been suppressed or lost from childhood trauma yet many more carry a dysfunctional expression created from these different “hell points” in the life... all with different perceptions, different world views, and different ways of meeting life and trauma.
It is through these dysfunctional inner child “trances” that we keep creating problems for our life by filtering present moment reality through these outmoded, limited, and distorted lenses.

How then do we best meet and resolve this phenomenon of unconscious, self inflicted, unnecessary, yet very real and debilitating suffering?

As a professional healer and spiritual guide for over 15 years, how I work with each unique being is undoubtedly my greatest gift and expertise. So many things have to be held in perspective and considered.

First, I help find ways to alert you to when this mechanical event is occurring and how to recognize it BEFORE you allow the outdated strategy to kick in. Then I help you refocus your attention to your deeper identity as a Divine Being and from here I show both you as your Divine Self and the inner child that what it decided was true “for all time and all events” is not actually true for this moment.

That realization changes both our view and the inner child’s view of the triggering event. From here we, as the Divine Self that we are, can then hold the field for truth either with soft compassion or a strong direction and hand as the child releases its need to put into action the survival technique. It realizes for itself that the current event is not the “old movie” at all and that a more current response based on the actual event that is happening is best of for all concerned.

It has been said that Beverly offers the most effective approach available today for combining both the healing of the wounded child and the achieving of Self Realization.